Last month, I called my friend to know his well-being in general. We spoke for five minutes remembering our college days. We both felt good talking to each other. He had to go somewhere so we couldn't talk much. He told me that he will call me back in a day or two. He lives in Wellington.
One week passed but he did not call me. I thought he is so busy nowadays earning money that he doesn't have time to speak to his old friends. I did not like his behavior.
Later, I came to know through our common friend that our Wellington friend is in serious trouble. He lost his job due to the recession. He is finding it difficult to survive there so he is coming back to his native place. I was in complete shock since he did not tell me anything about this when I spoke to him last. I thought he might be going through difficulties at that time but he was kind enough to talk to me even in those conditions.
So I learned a lesson, if the other person is not responding, there is a possibility they might be facing difficulties. We start to think that the other person is ignoring us. He could be your relative, friend or colleague.
Next time if you experience the same, think and get to know the actual reason before jumping to any conclusion.
By the way, he got a new job in Wellington after a few days. Now, he is settled there without any problems. He called me yesterday and spoke to me for half an hour. We spoke like old friends. I am happy for him.
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Other people have their problems, we need to understand this. Stellar post @Miguel Copley
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We think we are inferior to others which may not be the case. Awesome post on relationships @Miguel Copley.