I Finally See — Life Was Whole All Along!
You must examine why it is that you feel incomplete if you lose someone. This life has come as a whole. If you know this life the way it is, there is no question of incompleteness. This is a complete life. If this is an incomplete life, that means the Creator has done a bad job. No, it is a great job—far greater than most people realize. It is too fantastic a job. If you have experienced this life the way it is, then nothing would leave a hole in you because this is a complete life. Then you would not fill this up with your profession or your car or your house or your family or something. This life can interact, relate to, be with and include so many things. But still, by itself, it is a complete life. This is the way it is. If this is the experience and state you are in, then whether you lose your job, your money or someone who is dear to you, you will not grieve.
— Excerpt from Chapter 9: Of Grief and Mourning, from the book “Death” by Sadhguru.
Reading this made me realize that life itself was never incomplete. I used to believe that I’d feel whole once everything fell into place—a better job, more success, or someone’s approval. But the truth is, life came as a complete creation. Nothing outside can add to what’s already whole. The feeling of incompleteness comes from comparison and expectation. When something or someone leaves, it hurts, but life doesn’t actually lose anything. The essence of being alive remains the same.
Now I no longer chase perfection or try to fix every part of my life. I just live it as it flows. The past, present, and future are all part of one beautiful experience. Seeing life this way brings peace. I don’t need to fill it with anything else. It’s already full.
Superb post, even I've read it. I recommend this book Death: An Inside Story by Sadhguru. Everyone should read it at least once in their lifetime.